Right now I would choose fairytale over reality
In about a month my best friend is getting married and I am of course a maid of honour. In addition to three thousands of things to do I also have to give a speech. So I’ve been sitting here for the last 20 minutes trying to think of something to say. So far I’ve got “I am really happy for you two” and “Relationships are hard”. And I am pretty sure the last one is not even right for the wedding. On the other hand seeing difficult relationships all around I am so happy to see at least one which is going quite okay.
My cousin has been dating the guy for a decade now. They’ve practically been together their entire adult life. Ten years together usually result in a marriage. Eventually. However. She went on a trip. And met this other guy. A guy who is less intelligent, has less education (well, no degree that is), is not so good looking as the first one. But at the same time he is very attentive, funny and friendly. She says they are friends. There are lots of messaging, midnight calls, drunk calls, laughter and meetings for lunch. Her official boyfriend has no idea she and this new boy still keep in touch. She thinks they are friends. Why then she looks so incredibly happy, excited and vivacious after talking to the new guy?
A colleague was crying today. And last week. And week before that. She gets in a fight with her boyfriend almost every two days. Over stupidiest things. Like over him not replying to her message on FB. Or over her having lunch with two male colleagues (and with me!). Both of them are foolishly stubborn. She cries but always waits for him to apologize. And when he does, she says she does not forgive him. And then cries again. It’s like a vicious circle that I would rather not see day after day.
Relationships are hard. But if you have someone in your life and you think the world about him or her, appreciate that. Don’t you ever take them for granted. We need more good happy-ever-after stories. And for god sakes, is it so hard to say “I am sorry” just this once?
